The pursuit of happiness is equally fascinating and frustrating! I can remember a number of different fads from when I was growing up: Duncan yoyo’s, hula hoops, sharkskin pants, boatneck sweaters… all things that everyone just had to have when they appeared on the scene because we all knew that if we could just get our hands on the latest “thing” then we would be happy!
I suspect that the same approach to happiness today explains the presence of so many high-end stores on Kalākaua Avenue in Waikīkī like Ferragammo, Tiffany and Bulgari. If I can just buy something from those fabulous stores then I will be happy! The problem with searching for happiness as a commodity, searching for happiness outside of ourselves is that is not where one can obtain happiness! It is not stocked on shelves. It is found within. So then how can we get in touch with our inner happiness?
We can start by not running away from the reality of ourselves, especially those aspects of ourselves that we don’t like! Happiness is found by being at peace about ourselves even while recognizing that we are flawed, knowing there are things which need changing even realizing that we are not so hot! The happiness we yearn for is actually a wholeness, a lack of being divided, an “at homeness” with ourselves. The more we run from seeing ourselves as we are, the more happiness will elude us, no matter how many stores on Kalākaua we might shop in!