Let’s call her Lucinda. She is a young teen and has known her whole life that she was adopted at birth. She deeply loves her adoptive parents, is a well-balanced young lady and has begun to doubt her own self-worth. The thinking goes “What is wrong with me that my real mother didn’t want me? Am I like a piece of luggage that got lost by the airlines? Who could I have been if my birth-mother hadn’t given me away?” Of course we adults know that there can be many reasons for why a child is given up for adoption such as the realization that someone else can give your child a better life filled more opportunities, that you are unwilling to let a child interfere with the pursuit of a career, or that you just don’t want to have to be saddled with another life which is totally dependent upon you.
The adoptive parents of Lucinda became aware of what was going on within her and sat down with her to talk. They admitted that they really had no idea why her birth-mother had been willing to give her up. They made the point that when children are given to you by Life then whatever kind of child you get is the luck of the draw. But when they adopted her they CHOSE her out of all the babies in the world that were available. They told Lucinda that they recognized their own love for her the moment that they saw her and they chose her to complete their family. She is THAT special!
We can be saved by someone else’s belief in us. But do we ever give any thought as to how our belief in someone can save them? How can we show others that we believe in them? We can keep promises to them, we can refuse to play hurtful games with them under the guise of “just kidding” and we can embrace inconveniencing ourselves on their behalf. A manifestation of a developing maturity is the willingness to care about others more than we care about ourselves. How we show that care is unlimited but we can be certain that our own worth is based upon that willingness to care.